What’s a recession wedding you ask?   Well, it’s a wedding that takes place during one of the worse economic recessions in modern history.   Arguably, we may be in a quasi-depression but life goes on.    So what was different about a recession wedding versus a regular wedding?   Well for starters, the guest list seemed to be very limited to immediate family members which whittled down the guest list to less than 100 people.    When I got married during the dot com boom, I had 500 people at my wedding and spent at least 17k on all the stuff associated with it.      I would guess that this wedding probably was done at a cost of less than $3,000.

There was food served along with a bottle of alcohol at each table, however there was no open nor cash bar.    There was a DJ but not traditional singers.   The wedding took place not at a church or reception hall but at a friends estate by a river.    The scenery was marvelous but there were no major decorations nor were chairs furnished with your typically covers.   The table covers were simple, plain and effective for obvious use.   Guests, myself included, were asked to help move tables and chairs around and a few of us acted as ad hoc photographers.  We were served a delicious dinner and the food was great.

The groom and bride didn’t weren’t registered anywhere and asked for a cash gift instead however nominal it may be.

Although I have no evidence of this, I suspect that cash gifts were the norm and probably low.   My wife and I flew down for the wedding and stayed at a hotel, by the time we added all of our expenses we easily spent $800 for a weekend event.    In retrospect I wonder if the bride would have preferred the cash instead of us being there…

Despite the low budget however we all had a GREAT time dancing, talking and meeting with family we hadn’t seen in years and it goes to show that money (or lack thereof) makes no significant difference in the joy of celebrating a two lives joining together.

If any bride to be has any lessons to learn here I think it is that love shouldn’t wait for money.